Holiday Traditions: The Good and The Bad
Let me ask you: if there were no such thing as Thanksgiving or Christmas, would you be taking those days off to visit family? Would you have booked your tickets for a family vacation to the beach 2 months ago? Or would you be signing up to serve hot plates at the local shelter that day, donating money to help the homeless, less fortunate, wounded veterans, elderly, or orphans?
Holidays DO provide a service to us and itās up to us individually to separate what we need from this holiday, and what we do NOT need in order to make the best of it. I know a lot of people who do not celebrate commercial holidays (ever) and itās been insightful to hear what they say about their reasons for avoiding them altogether. So I have put the Pros & Cons together for those of you who do celebrate holidays, regardless of your religion or belief system:
PROS (how you can make the most out of holidays):
- Reconnecting with loved ones
- Remembering and honoring loved ones who have passed
- Taking careful inventory of non-material gifts in your life
- Giving thanks and practicing gratitude is a great way to shift your mind and relieve stress
- Greater awareness of the gifts & love you receive each day
- Awareness & compassion for those who are less fortunate
- Opening your heart to those who are less fortunate
- Being reminded and reminding others that you/they are loved
- Reflecting on the year behind you is a good way to refocus on your dreams and goals
- Taking a break, getting time off from routines
Here is a list for you to begin striking out from the ānormā. This is the stuff that gets us all into trouble; whether physical, emotional, mental, or spiritualā¦this is what destroys the holidays and sends us on a stressful spiral of binge eating, restless planning, debt consuming, excuse-making, self destruction.
CONS (How you completely ruin the opportunity of āholidayā):
- Shopping lists for parties, dinners, traveling
- Mile-long Christmas gift lists for kids & loved ones
- Cussing each other out over who blew the fuse hanging lights on the roof
- Running people over to get a discount on Black Friday
- Pinning 329 dessert, pie, cake, crumble, muffin, torte recipes on Pinterest
- Swearing you will not gain those 5lbs again this year (while doing the above)
- Saying the phrase, āWellā¦ I canāt NOT eat my mother-in-lawās pieā
- Saying the phrase, āehā¦ whateverā¦ Iāll get back on track NYEā
- Convincing yourself you cannot survive the holidays without egg nog, Vodka, and gingerbreadā¦ becauseā¦ afterallā¦ thatās what itās ALL ABOUT!
- Putting everything on the credit card
- Clearing out the Target holiday decorations aisleā¦ then spending hours each week decorating
- Sheer panic on getting all your cards to the USPS on time for Dec. 24 delivery
- Standing in ridiculous lines at the mall
- Children screaming on Santaās lap
- Minivans with reindeer antlers hooked up on the front laying on their horns over parking spaces
I canāt lie and tell you that I have not spent my entire life (almost) completely caught up and enthralled in the consumerism of holidays. Christmas is my favorite time of year, for so many reasons, but I used to think I couldnāt get the most out of it unless I had a freaking Christmas tree in every main room of the house, colored lights strung inside and out, music, candles, food and feastsā¦ you name it. I had to assign some kind of ātraditionā to every aspect of the holidays that I began to totally miss the whole point. If everything is stressing you out like it did to me a couple of years ago, then itās time to step back and ask yourself what you really do believe about the holidays. What do they mean to you? What is the most important?
Hereās the dealā¦you do not NEED to bake a thousand cookies. You do not need to buy everything on the list, be on time, dress up, pose for the camera flawlessly, and put reindeer antlers on the damn cat. You donāt!
If you miss your friends, call them.
If you need time with family, take the day (or week!) off!
If you have been feeling selfish, then go do a quick drive-by the homeless shelter to get a peek at how many people are standing in line for a warm bed tonight. Not on Christmas or New Years. Tonight!